By Colton Parrett
Let’s be honest:
You’re in love. You trust each other. You’re committed.
Maybe you’re living together. Maybe you’re planning to get married.
And maybe… you’re having sex.
So you ask the big question:
“If we’re in a committed relationship, is sex before marriage really a sin?”
Here’s the straight-up answer:
❗Yes—biblically, sex before marriage is still considered sin.
Even in a committed, loving, long-term relationship—God’s Word still puts sex inside the boundaries of marriage, not just emotional connection.
This isn’t about shame. It’s not about God being anti-pleasure. It’s about what sex was created to be—sacred, binding, and soul-connecting.
📖 Let’s break it down with Scripture:
“The two will become one flesh.”
— Genesis 2:24 (NIV)
Sex unites people at a soul level. That’s why God designed it to happen after vows, not before.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure…”
— Hebrews 13:4 (NIV)
Sex is meant to seal a lifelong covenant—not just be an expression of feelings or trust.
“Flee from sexual immorality… your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit.”
— 1 Corinthians 6:18–19 (NIV)
Paul wasn’t judging people—he was reminding them how valuable and spiritual their bodies really are.
💭 But what if we love each other and plan to get married?
That’s beautiful—and God honors commitment.
But love and commitment aren’t a substitute for covenant.
There’s a reason Scripture never says:
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“If you love them enough, it’s okay.”
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“If marriage is coming later, go ahead.”
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“If you’re being respectful, sex is permitted.”
Instead, it draws a line: Sex belongs in marriage. Period.
“Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity… and those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.”
— Galatians 5:19–21 (ESV)
(Note: This isn’t about falling once—it’s about choosing to live in disobedience without care for God’s design.)
❤️ But is it unforgivable?
Absolutely not.
God doesn’t abandon you because you had sex before marriage.
He doesn’t condemn you for what you did in private.
He invites you into grace, healing, and restoration.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us and purify us…”
— 1 John 1:9 (NIV)
“There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”
— Romans 8:1 (NIV)
God isn’t mad at you—He just wants more for you. A love that is not only romantic, but holy. Not just fun, but sacred.
🙌 Final truth:
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Yes, sex before marriage is still a sin in God’s eyes—even if the relationship is strong.
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No, that does not mean you’re damned or unworthy.
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What matters most is whether your heart stays open to God, His grace, and His better plan for you.
If you’ve messed up? Join the club.
If you’re still in the process of figuring it out? You’re not alone.
If you still love Jesus and want Him in your life? You’re safe in His grace.
— Colton Parrett
Christian blogger, believer in raw prayers, and living proof that God hears people even when they’re a mess.
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